欣赏完上期Giant同学张扬个性的演讲，你是否已经被说服要听从自己的内心，成为自己想成为的人。那么，上海宏润博源学校Jerry同学的这篇青少年要控制自己，不与父母争吵的文章又会带给你怎样的思考?

After reading Giant's speech, which shows strong personality and aspiration to freedom and independence, have you been persuaded to follow your heart and be the person you want to be? This time Jerry Pu persuades teenagers to stop fighting with their parents. What inspirations will you get after reading his speech?

停止与父母争吵

For teenagers like us, what should we do when we disagree with our parents? Some of us might say: I fight with them. Yes, fight! When we think differently from our parents, we fight; when we have a strong desire, we fight; even when we simply don't feel good, we fight. Let's think about this act of fighting. Is it productive? Are we gaining anything from it? Do we really understand what we want? My answer is: no, and this sort of fighting must be stopped.

对于我们这些青少年而言，当我们与父母意见不一致时，我们应该如何做呢?有的人可能会说：“我会和父母争吵!” 没错，争吵!每当我们与父母有不同意见时，我们会争吵;每当我们有强烈的欲望时，我们会争吵;甚至有时我们仅仅是感觉不高兴，我们也会争吵。让我们仔细思考一下这种争吵吧。它究竟有意义吗?我们能从中得到什么吗?我们真的明白我们想要什么吗?对此我的答案是：否，这种争吵必须停止。

At our age, many of us are taller than our parents, and, perhaps, stronger. Consequently, we believe that we should be entitled to a certain degree of independence. We want to mature into an adult. In many cases, however, the way we comport ourselves is nowhere leading us to our desire. One teenager in Zhejiang dyed his hair green. When apprised of this, his parents were infuriated and asked him to dye it back, but he chose to fight with them. To further menace his parents, he had his ears pierced and wore outlandish clothes. Did he gain independence from this? No, as he soon learned that he was to be expelled from the school and none of his friends thought he was cool. Did he manage to mature into a person with distinct identity? No, as he was forced to change it back since he became the object of derision. There are multitudinous ways to mature, but fighting with parents happens to be the worst one.

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在我们这个年龄，我们许多人都比父母更高了，可能也更强壮了。因此，我们认为父母应该同意我们更独立。我们渴望成为成年人。但是，很多时候，我们的行为并没有把我们引向正确的方向。在浙江，有一个中学生将他的头发染成了绿色。他的父母知道了此事之后很生气，并让他染回原样，但他选择了与父母争吵。为了进一步威胁他的父母，他打了耳洞并且穿上了奇装异服。他是否因此独立了呢?没有，因为他将被学校开除，而他的朋友也不觉得他很酷。他是否成长为一个独立的成人了呢?也没有，因为他被人嘲笑，被迫将头发染回了原样。成熟的方法有很多，但与父母争吵恰好是最差的一种。

Of course, one could argue that parents are old-fashioned, and fighting with them helps to fashion a new sense of independence. But, we are no longer toddlers now. We should be capable of thinking strategically. If we fight, can we continue without them? No! Do we have money supply? No! Eventually we have to make compromises with them, which could become harsher after fighting. So why bother to fight? Others might say that parents do not always understand our benevolent intentions. Yet when we fight with them, have we ever considered that this might also hurt their feeling? Have we ever considered that this creates a bigger misunderstanding? Have we ever considered that many years later when we look back, we would regret having done certain things precisely because of failure to accept their thought? I hope everyone could think about this before blaming parents for misunderstanding.

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当然，有人会主张父母都很老套，而与他们争吵可以体现出一种新的独立性。但是，我们早已不是婴儿了，应该具备批判性思考的能力。如果我们和他们争吵，我们能一直吵下去吗?不能。我们有独立的资金来源吗?没有。所以最终我们还是得回去妥协，而这种妥协在争吵之后只会变得更加不利。所以，我们何必要争吵呢?还有人说，父母不总是能理解我们友善的态度。但是当我们吵架时，我们有无想过，这样会伤害了父母的感情?我们有无想过，这样会造成更大的误解?我们有无想过，多年以后当我们回顾往事，我们会因多少次没有接受父母的意见而做错事而后悔?我希望大家都能在吵架前思考一下这些事。

It is totally reasonable to aspire to independence, but rebellion to a teenager is like a cancer to a body, a backfiring engine to a car, or a malady to a society. I’m not saying that children should always be docile or complacent. We can always debate on different issues. We can express our opinions critically. We can convince our parents about certain points. Nevertheless, solving problems by simply fighting is irresponsible, indiscreet, and inapposite. It is now the time to cure this disease, or fix this engine and set it to the right direction on the course of life.

渴望独立是很正常的，但是青少年的叛逆已成为了一种社会的弊病。我并不是说青少年应该一直听话而顺从。我们可以就不同的观点而辩论;我们可以发表自己的意见;我们也可以尝试说服家长。但是，仅凭吵架来解决问题是一种不负责任也不合适的做法。所以，我们应该杜绝这种争吵。

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